The Art of Choosing Friends

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You can’t choose whom to be close with unless you understand yourself

One of the most important things you can do to understand yourself is to articulate your values — because that’s what will decide who you are, how you behave, and will help you make tough decisions. Good values serve as an internal compass that drives you in the right direction in life, and that’s why knowing what your values are is important. Some of us clearly know what our values are, but others find it difficult to even know if they have any; however, given enough thought and with the help of certain tools and techniques anyone can articulate their values.

Value-driven friendship

Your values not only about yourself but also can help in who you should become close with. When you become close to a person who has conflicting value with that of yours, you’re gonna have a hard time dealing with them, because both of your interests may not coincide most of the time. Moreover, they may not appreciate what you believe or do, and vice versa; which primarily has been the root cause for many failed relationships. Hence it is important to choose people who have similar values to yours before becoming close to them. However, all these apply only if you have good values, but if your values aren’t good you probably need help.

I write about Self-Development, Skills, Learning, and Creativity.

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